Thursday, June 10, 2010

Honesty...

...yours touched me tonight as I pulled up my blog and read 9 sad stories...

I thought that maybe I had made a mistake offering to talk about something that happened to me .. something that hurt me deeply - but if you know me, I am one of those people who is willing to open up.. thinking ...hoping that what I say may help one person..

Here is part of my story..

I was married before I married my precious Don.. did I ever tell you that? This man was the "natural" parent to my 2 daughters... Long story short - but with a debt of over $60,000.00 in back child support - my first husband sighed away his parental rights to his own children... and Don adopted them. God is so great - isn't He!!!

Anyway - during a very dark time of my life, my former husband was cheating on me... an activity that had happened more than once and had no indication of ending. I was deeply ashamed. I had tried everything.. changed my hair color..dieted all the way down to 108... by the way - I am 5'6" tall.. I should have just listened to him. You see, he told me that he cheated ..not because they were "better" than I..it was just because they were different..

I loved my husband deeply...and I loved the Lord. After years of this.. his cheating ..and continue to proposition women to enter into a relationship with him, God gave me a gift... He released me. In a moment - I no longer had any feelings for a man I once would have given my life for ..without a second thought..

Now - I do NOT condone divorce at all.. I think every effort should be taken to restore ..repair and counsel to keep a couple together...ESPECIALLY if they are parents. In my case, I had already completely forgiven him for having a full out affair.. but he had demonstrated (after 9 years of marriage) that he had no intention of stopping... after all - every woman is different... to quote him...

to be continued...

2 comments:

gowestferalwoman said...

goodness. theres too many parallels we share, and I think Im starting to understand why I like your blog :)

JJ said...

I'm so sorry that happened :( I am glad that you met your current hubby though, he sounds like a wonderful guy!!